Just in case anyone else in blogland shares my fear of flying, the only things that really help me are:
An amazingly good book that I can lose myself in
Earplugs so I don't obsess over every change in engine noise
Deep, deep breathing and some inconspicious yoga postures
Becoming very religious on takeoffs and landings
Comfort food (portable)
I overheard a woman say something to her little kid once that also has
helped me on bumpy flights. She told him to think about unexpected
turbulence like they were in a car turning off a highway and going onto a dirt road for a little while before getting back on smooth pavement. With some of the potholes we have around town, this helps me with even the bumpiest airplane rides.
Also, get to know a pilot--just don't listen to any war stories. My old roommate was a pilot, and knowing him and his friends helped a lot. These guys/gals care deeply about their jobs, and they obsess about our safety even more than we do, believe it or not.
For a more formal way to get rid of this fear, check out www.fearofflyinghelp.com, a free online course by an airline pilot that really, really helps.