You’re reliable and a team player. You hate the idea of disappointing others or leaving them in a position of need. But saying no is a healthy thing to do, and often necessary in order to make time for your own priorities. Here are some guidelines for saying no:
1. Rehearse. Keep it brief. Get comfortable saying the words.
2. Don’t feel pressure to provide an excuse or explanation. Whatever you do, don’t lie or make something up. Say no and then be quiet. If the other person asks for an explanation, keep it brief, as in, “I have other obligations that prevent me from taking this on.”
3. Remember that saying no provides an opportunity for someone else to take on the task.
4. Be kind with your words. Politeness, respect, and grace go a long way in delivering a rejection.